Self Esteem - How Do You Really Think About You?

Self Esteem is only concerned with your relationship with yourself.

People who are able to love and appreciate themselves are not perfect in the eyes of others but they have found a way to accept themselves for who they are, and by maintaining a positive relationship with themselves they have developed high self esteem.

This is a conscious choice that they have made, and when you really think about it this is a choice that is available to everyone.

Why do people not fall in love with who they are?

Primarily because they spend far too much time worrying about what other people are or might be thinking about them. You are probably handing far too much of your natural power over to those around you who you deem to be important to you:

Parents? Partners? Employers? Teachers? Peers?...

As children we are born into this world knowing that we are worthy, valuable and full of fun. If you look at any young child it clearly knows that it is at the centre of its own universe and is free to choose....

But gradually and imperceptibly the older and bigger adults around them increasingly make that child feel insignificant and unable to choose for itself. Rules, guidelines and obligations are presented by the adults and the child is now subject to Continual Judgment to determine if they are measuring up to expectations.

The funny thing is that each of those adults as a child were unable to live up to the expectations of the adults around them, yet they continue down the same course adamant that they know best and that those around them must try and meet the guidelines.

This continual process of being presented with rules from outside and then being judged as not measuring up is the real reason why low self esteem is so prevalent today.

Our true reality is that we are free to choose how we each live our lives and we are blessed with our own incredibly powerful Emotional Guidance System that works perfectly in each moment to guide us in the direction of our own choosing. This system has always worked for you and will always do so, but the vast majority of people have not given it any attention and even if they have they have been unsure or unwilling to interpret the feedback and make fresh, more empowering choices.

You can of course continue to try and "keep all of your plates spinning" by trying to please the people around you by being who they want you to be, but you already know that this is a game that you cannot win. This game is made absolutely impossible due to the fact that no matter who you are trying to please they change their rules from one day to the next.

So if you want to improve your own self esteem it is your relationship with you, Your Self Identity that you must focus upon. The Empowerment Process Was Designed to Build Self Esteem by identifying and releasing all of the resistance to your natural ability that you have picked up along your life experience to date.

The starting point is to complete the initial Self Confidence Test and then review the personalised recommendations that will offer an immediate improvement plan to enable you to transform your relationship with yourself.

Why not take the Self Confidence Test NOW? It only takes 3-5 minutes.

The Self Confidence Test

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First Name*
First Name*

E-mail Address*
E-mail Address*

When Do I Feel Least Self Confident?*
When Do I Feel Least Self Confident?*

	When I Am Alone
	When I Am In A Social Group
	When I Am At Work
	When I Am With My Family
	When I Am Meeting New People

For How Long?*
For How Long?*

	Since I Was A Child
	Since I Was A Teenager
	Since I Was An Adult
	In The Past 5 Years
	Only Recently

What Triggers This Low Self Confidence Issue?*
What Triggers This Low Self Confidence Issue?*

	Being the Centre of Attention
	Feeling Inferior to Those Around Me
	Facing a New Challenge
	Being Tested or Assessed
	Memories of Past Experiences
	Not Knowing What to Say or Do

How Often?*
How Often?*

	Many Times In A Day
	Daily
	Many Times In A Week
	Weekly
	Occasionally

My lack of confidence is also triggered by....add here

My Top Three Most Negative Emotions When I Lack Self Confidence*
My Top Three Most Negative Emotions When I Lack Self Confidence*

	Optimism
	Hopefulness
	Contentment
	Boredom
	Pessimism
	Frustration
	Overwhelmed
	Disappointment
	Doubt
	Worry
	Blame
	Discouragement
	Anger
	Revenge
	Hatred
	Jealousy
	Guilt
	Depression

What I Most Don't Want To Happen To Me Relative To This Confidence Issue*
What I Most Don't Want To Happen To Me Relative To This Confidence Issue*

	To Feel Unloved
	To Be Criticised Or Judged
	To Appear To Be Not Good Enough
	To Feel Unworthy
	To Be Ignored
	To Be Shouted At

What I Most Want To Happen To Me Relative to This Confidence Issue*
What I Most Want To Happen To Me Relative to This Confidence Issue*

	To Feel Really Good About Myself
	To Be Appreciated By Others
	To Be Liked By Others
	To Be Successful
	To Be Happy

Where Have I Been Focusing My Attention?*
Where Have I Been Focusing My Attention?*

	I Am Very Clear on What I Don't Want
	I Am Clear on What I Don't Want
	I Have No Idea About What I Do Want
	I Am Clear on What I Do Want
	I Am Very Clear on What I Do Want

What I Believe Is Stopping My Progress Most*
What I Believe Is Stopping My Progress Most*

	I Am Not Good Enough
	I Don't Deserve To Be Confident
	I Cannot Change
	I Don't Know What To Do
	My Challenges Are Unique
	Nobody Cares
	I Never Get Any Better
	I Have Lost All Hope

What I Most Want To Believe*
What I Most Want To Believe*

	I Understand That This Challenge Is a Normal Part of Life
	I Am Learning Exactly Where My Resistance Is
	I Know That I Can Easily Be More Self Confident
	I Know That I Am on the Right Track
	I Know That I Am Making Progress Each Day

My Readiness To Change*
My Readiness To Change*

	I Want To Improve My Self Confidence Right Now
	I Want To Understand More Before I Act
	I Am Intrigued But Not Ready To Act Yet
	I Am Resigned To Lacking Confidence

My additional thoughts are...add here

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