Overcoming Shyness Starts With Correcting Previous Judgments

So overcoming shyness is important to you.

Well let's start by looking at some examples of the specific scenarios or situations where your shyness might be most active:

Meeting new people you like

Meeting new influential people

Being the centre of attention

Business meetings

Interviews

There is a large degree of uncertainty involved in each of these examples, and this will definitely be contributing to your uneasy feelings.

Why is this? Because whether you are conscious of it or not you have a strong desire in relation to any situation within which your shyness is active.

Not only this but that desire is currently expressed more by what you don't want to happen than by what you do want:

I don't want this person to think I am stupid

I don't want to fail this interview...

Step 1: Be specific about what you do want

When you focus your attention primarily on what you don't want you gather evidence to support that view:

He is looking at me as though I am stupid

I can tell the interviewer doesn't like me...

Step 2: You must shift your attention onto what you do want

It is important that you emphasise the presence or emergence of what you do want, and not give your attention to the absence of what you do want. Review Focus Your Attention For Further Information

Even by reading this article and considering overcoming shyness you have provoked your Inner Judge who will now be communicating with you through thought, and passing on its judgments as to the inaccuracy and irrelevancy of this guidance.

It is within your unconscious belief system that your greatest challenges lie. This is where you have stored all of the memories of the previous judgments that have been inappropriately made against you.

You didn't question them at the time and your Inner Judge doesn't want you to question them now, and the strongest defence technique it uses is Fear.

Only you know whether you are ready to face your own inner fears, and if you are your next step is:

Step 3: Become aware (again) of the false judgments made against you

This is the pivotal element of the overcoming shyness approach provided by the Empowerment Process which helps you to identify the original judgment and then replace it with an empowering belief that supports your rapid progress back to self confidence.

Step 4: Feel your progress to self confidence through your emotions

The better you feel the more progress you are making.

When your shyness returns you now know what the causes are and your work, with our support if you wish, is to continually fine tune your self esteem through the application of the Empowerment Process.

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The Self Confidence Test

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First Name*
First Name*

E-mail Address*
E-mail Address*

When Do I Feel Least Self Confident?*
When Do I Feel Least Self Confident?*
When I Am Alone
When I Am In A Social Group
When I Am At Work
When I Am With My Family
When I Am Meeting New People

For How Long?*
For How Long?*
Since I Was A Child
Since I Was A Teenager
Since I Was An Adult
In The Past 5 Years
Only Recently

What Triggers This Low Self Confidence Issue?*
What Triggers This Low Self Confidence Issue?*
Being the Centre of Attention
Feeling Inferior to Those Around Me
Facing a New Challenge
Being Tested or Assessed
Memories of Past Experiences
Not Knowing What to Say or Do

How Often?*
How Often?*
Many Times In A Day
Daily
Many Times In A Week
Weekly
Occasionally

My lack of confidence is also triggered by....add here

My Top Three Most Negative Emotions When I Lack Self Confidence*
My Top Three Most Negative Emotions When I Lack Self Confidence*
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration
Overwhelmed
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred
Jealousy
Guilt
Depression

What I Most Don't Want To Happen To Me Relative To This Confidence Issue*
What I Most Don't Want To Happen To Me Relative To This Confidence Issue*
To Feel Unloved
To Be Criticised Or Judged
To Appear To Be Not Good Enough
To Feel Unworthy
To Be Ignored
To Be Shouted At

What I Most Want To Happen To Me Relative to This Confidence Issue*
What I Most Want To Happen To Me Relative to This Confidence Issue*
To Feel Really Good About Myself
To Be Appreciated By Others
To Be Liked By Others
To Be Successful
To Be Happy

Where Have I Been Focusing My Attention?*
Where Have I Been Focusing My Attention?*
I Am Very Clear on What I Don't Want
I Am Clear on What I Don't Want
I Have No Idea About What I Do Want
I Am Clear on What I Do Want
I Am Very Clear on What I Do Want

What I Believe Is Stopping My Progress Most*
What I Believe Is Stopping My Progress Most*
I Am Not Good Enough
I Don't Deserve To Be Confident
I Cannot Change
I Don't Know What To Do
My Challenges Are Unique
Nobody Cares
I Never Get Any Better
I Have Lost All Hope

What I Most Want To Believe*
What I Most Want To Believe*
I Understand That This Challenge Is a Normal Part of Life
I Am Learning Exactly Where My Resistance Is
I Know That I Can Easily Be More Self Confident
I Know That I Am on the Right Track
I Know That I Am Making Progress Each Day

My Readiness To Change*
My Readiness To Change*
I Want To Improve My Self Confidence Right Now
I Want To Understand More Before I Act
I Am Intrigued But Not Ready To Act Yet
I Am Resigned To Lacking Confidence

My additional thoughts are...add here

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