How To Build Self Confidence in 10 Simple Steps

How to build self confidence? What a good question.

What makes this approach stand out from the crowd is that our starting point is to understand and then eliminate the causes of lost confidence.

If this isn't addressed first, then any solution offered can only produce short-lived benefits at best.

OK. Let's take a look at this simple, no-nonsense guide on how to build self confidence as easily as possible and in the shortest possible timeframe.

1. Accept Where You Are Today

The critical first step is to ACCEPT where you are and be thankful for your awareness that you can do better. Learn to appreciate your capability to grow and expand, and become excited about the opportunities ahead.

2. Take Total Responsibility For Where You Are

This shows you that the power to determine how your life works lies within you. You need to become excited about the opportunity of making newer, better choices in the future, ones that serve you and benefit others.

You always have free will to make your own choices and think your own thoughts, and now is the time to exercise that capability.

3. Be Honest About How You Feel

Your emotions are your "satellite navigation system". They show you whether you are in alignment with what you want or not, and what more valuable feedback can you wish for than that.

Learn to reconnect with your feelings, and the more aware you become of how you feel the more powerful you are.

4. Reach For A Feeling Of Relief

You can't leap from depression into passion, but you can move incrementally up the emotional scale in a matter of minutes once you learn how.

Set your ambition as being to feel as good as you can for as much of the time as possible. You will still feel negative emotion on occasion but instead of resisting it, you will now embrace it and utilise it as a sign that you need to adjust your focus and reach for more relief.

How to build self confidence with the Empowerment Process really emphasises the need to reconnect with, embrace and influence your emotions as much as you can.

5. Be Specific About What You Do Want

Those who lack confidence are not so clear. In the absence of conscious selection of what is wanted, they will have tended to become very clear on what they don't want. Many people have never been encouraged to utilise their free choice to select what is most valuable and interesting to them and as a result they continually notice what they don't want and push against it.

Confident people are also surrounded by things they don't want but they have developed the habit of focusing on what they do want.

6. Focus Your Attention On What You Do Want

If you walk into the same room looking for an angry face you will see one.

What affects some people is completely ignored by others. You do have the capability to focus your attention in the direction of your own choosing.

But in the absence of knowing what you do want it is difficult to become clear on what to focus on. So having successfully completed step 5, you now make a conscious effort to focus your attention in the direction of that choice or choices.

Just get into the habit of looking for the evidence of things working well, progress being made, what you have achieved NOT what is still left to do...

7. Develop An 'I Can' Attitude

What you believe in has a profound impact on your experience, and in most cases a lot of what you believe has been inherited from the most influential people in your life to-date.

The real key of how to build self confidence is the preparedness to become more conscious of what you do believe and then becoming willing to replace any limiting thoughts with more empowering ones.

This simple Empowerment Process highlights to you where you have beliefs that are not serving you.

For example: You want a new car, you have even chosen the model and the preferred colour, and everytime one drives past you, you see it, you focus your attention on it. Yet what are your feelings telling you? You feel frustrated, angry even that it hasn't arrived yet, that you can't afford it, that....Your emotions are showing you that you have a current belief (and a belief is nothing more than a thought that you keep thinking)that is limiting you.

All thoughts are ultimately sponsored by one of two basic thoughts. I CAN or I CAN'T.

This is where your real power lies buried. Confident people generate most of their thinking from the I CAN perspective. You can too. In fact you need to if you are to learn how to build self confidence quickly. I

8. Believe In Your Worthiness And Value

You have been exposed to the judgments of significant others throughout your life, and these judgments have eaten away at your self identity as every criticism or perceived failure has been internalised as evidence that you are not good enough.

This is FALSE THINKING whether you believe so or not, and at this moment in time you probably don't.

If you can start to change your basic beliefs about who you are, why you are here and what you are capable of, you will open the door to a full and satisfying life.

Each incremental improvement you can make in your thinking will be rewarded with validating experiences and positive feelings, so all you need to do is start the process of how to build self confidence as soon as you can.

9. Monitor Your Progress By How You Feel

Successful people still experience failure, but they maintain their focus on their desires and maintain their belief in themselves and keep moving forward towards their inevitable success.

Unsuccessful people experience the same failure and become disorientated. They lose sight of what they do want and focus attention on what they don't want. They lose belief in themselves and use the experience as evidence that they aren't good enough or are unworthy.

The only difference lies in what is believed.

Through application of this Empowerment Process you will not avoid future failure, but you will quickly change your perspective on what that failure means to you, and use it as a positive signpost that you have a sponsoring belief that needs to be changed.

Your emotions provide this feedback in every moment; start to make full use of that information RIGHT NOW.

10. Congratulate Yourself On The Progress You Have Made

You now know the 10 steps of how to build self confidence and if you can start to apply these steps in your everyday life, you will easily be able to focus forwards.

You are now in control of your future experience, regardless of what others think, do or say. Now that is powerful, and you now have familiarity with a process that will continue to lead you forward in the direction of your own choosing.

Keep applying this process with faith in the context of each self confidence issue you encounter and people around you will marvel at your transformation.

Start now, I know you can do it.

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