What You Focus On Is What You Get

Where do you focus most of your attention?

Whether you are currently aware of it or not your attention is completely under your own control but admittedly it does not always feel like it.

People, circumstances and events appear to automatically demand a proportion of your available attention. In every moment of every day you are surrounded by unlimited contrast, all of which has the capacity to demand some of your attention. But it doesn’t and why, because either consciously or unconsciously you make a choice as to where your attention is focused. You can tell where you have been focusing your attention by how you feel. When you are feeling positive emotions: You are directing your attention on the emergence or presence of things in your experience that you do want.

When you are feeling negative emotions: You are either directing your attention onto the absence of things in your experience that you do want or on the emergence or presence of things in your experience that you don’t want.

Nothing in the universe is static, everything is energy and energy is always moving yet things can appear not to change for long periods of time, why?

- Because you keep your attention on what you don't want

- Because you keep repeating the same thoughts

- Because your feelings are negative but you have not changed in response to them

But now that you know that you have the capability to exercise conscious control over all of these faculties, nothing needs to remain the same in your life unless you choose for it to do so.

The more unconscious you are of how, where and on what you are placing your attention, the more readily you adopt the role of a simple observer of your life as it unfolds around you.

One who is mostly an observer thrives in good times but suffers in bad times. While one who is a visionary thrives in all times.

In the absence of conscious awareness of Your Desires - What You Do Want, you will by default devote the majority of your attention to what you don’t want. This will generate negative emotions.

Your attention can only ever be in one place at one time. You can't watch out for what you don’t want, and consider what you do want at the same time.

The critical question you must answer is: Does it feel good to keep my attention here now?

The intensity of the feeling, whether positive or negative, will vary according to the intensity of your attention. When it is more general, it can be represented as a broad spectrum of light that covers a very wide area simultaneously, and your feelings will be softer as a result. When you really concentrate your attention specifically on a subject that light becomes like a laser beam and you can be said to be offering your undivided attention. If you concentrate on what you don’t want you will feel strong negative emotions.

The stronger you don’t want something the more in your interest it is to distract yourself away from that object.

It matters not whether the object of your attention is in your past, your present or your future, the emotions that you will be feeling will immediately tell you whether you need to adjust your focus NOW.

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