Expectations Need To Be Positive To Boost Self Confidence

Expectations are a fundamental part of your experience.

If you exceeded their demands you were praised and as a result felt good, but if you failed you were criticised and as a result felt bad.

It will serve you well to be completely clear on what you cannot influence and what you can:

You cannot influence -

• The demands that others place on you
• The behaviour of others
• The decisions of others
• The opinions of others

• The importance you place upon the opinions of others
• The demands you place on others
• The demands you place on yourself
• Your behaviour
• Your decisions
• Your opinions

It is advisable to avoid setting too many requirements for others wherever possible, because if to be happy you become dependant upon other people acting in a specific way you will only be setting yourself up for emotional disturbance.

So the most critical element that you need to focus your attention on is what you expect from yourself.

Limited confidence is a demonstration of a negative orientation. You do not possess confidence because you are anticipating failure.

Total self confidence is a demonstration of a positive orientation. You possess confidence because you do not even consider failure.

The core beliefs that lie behind The Setting of Your Expectations are Either Based in Fear or Faith.

Adopting an attitude of having Faith in the Universe will enable any targets you set to be positively oriented.

The more you adopt a positive perspective the more Personal Motivation you will discover and the more you will be able to boost your self confidence.

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